.Black Isn't Always Slimming.

Being a plus sized lady since before I was even really a lady, I was lured into the world of black clothing. Myths like "it's slimming" and "it hides all of the parts you don't want people to see". I was completely blinded. In the dark; I guess you could say for pun's sake.

This was in fact part of the reason I was a tomboy. Other than that I'd rather play with cars and build things. It was just easier to cop out and wear black tees and ill-fitting bootcut jeans. So I slumped my way all over thinking I'd look thinner in my cloak of dark clothing.

Would you like to know what truly slims you? (Other than actually losing all the curves)

FIT!

Fit! Of course! How could I be so silly? It's so freakin' simple! Well you see; I have never been a fan of shopping. I know that sounds completely insane. I've always loved clothes, shoes and make up...just not on myself. I wasn't thin and attractive enough for all of that. I left it up to the skinny girls. 

How foolish I was. 

So as I've mentioned in a previous post I "What Not to Weared" myself. I made up my mind. I was going to go shopping and try everything I liked on in multiple sizes. That was the first time I realized that I shouldn't be upset about what size I wear. It's going to vary between different stores and brands. And if I'm wearing the right one I look damn good! Why didn't anyone explain this to me before?! No one explained it to me because no one really knew. 

I didn't like talking about my size. From age 13 I was made to feel ashamed of it. I couldn't understand because my older brother was not a small guy, yet no one was telling him he couldn't have sweets. He was a growing boy after all. And my twin is 6 sizes smaller than I am. 

That's a hard lesson to learn on your own... and a long one. I was in my mid 20's by the time I had this epiphany. 

I can't say it enough ladies. TRY THINGS ON! Everything! You won't regret it! Trust me. Don't let any bad memories, or the fact that it might take longer than you want to find the perfect garment stop you. You WILL find it. And you WILL look FABULOUS. I have faith in you! 

So shed those a-line, boxy, black frocks and go buy something bright and gorgeous that will show off how beautiful you really are!

Until next time darlings.

.Goin' to the Chapel.

I am in wedding panic mode!
My wonderful fiance and I are tying the knot in November. We have had a few hiccups getting to the big day. After moving here from Texas it took much longer to get back on my feet than I'd planned. And as those who have been through a financial drought know... it takes twice as long to bounce back.
We don't want that to get us down. People have purchased plane tickets and booked places to stay. We've gone too far to change the date now. And we don't want to! We've got a venue that is small and will be easy to decorate. My best friend is marrying us. Decor will be easy to accumulate. Jars, tealight candles, string lights and shear fabrics. We are making our own food and cake. It's going to be very low budget and sort of vintage inspired.
My biggest problem... I HAVE NO DRESS!
I went snooping through amazon and found an adorable boutique. They basically make your dress for you for under $200. Only draw back for me? Shipping is $57. I'm hoping I can save up enough to order one in with in the next month. OR maybe I can find a white or ivory cocktail dress at a store. Who knows!

Here's a peek at what I loved!

The last one is my favorite!
Tell me what you think! And let me know if you know where I can find a good plus size white or ivory vintage inspired dress.

All of these dresses are from Remedios Boutique

Until next time darlings.